Well folks, we've made it to the end of this season of the Bachelorette and it hasn't always been an easy ride but I thank you for hanging with me! There is so much to talk about tonight, both good and bad, so we might as well just dive in head first!!
First up was JP's meeting with Ashley's family and it went every way except well. I don't think JP was there for 5 minutes before Ashley's sister started attacking him, and it all seemed to stem from the simple question "Does he make you laugh?" that for some reason Ashley had a little trouble answering. Ashley's sister Krys said flat out that she didn't think JP was the one for her;she didn't feel as though Ashely was completely herself around him. When she's talking to him she is so focused on his age that I don't think she's hearing anything else he has to say. If she thinks that JP is too old for Ashley I can't help but wonder what she had to say about the age difference with Brad! JP is telling her that he is 100% in love with her sister and it doesn't seem to matter; she has preconceived notions and she's sticking to them. As you can imagine, JP came out of there feeling incredibly defeated and Ashley finds herself questioning everything. He's extremely hurt by the fact that Ashley didn't defend their relationship more which makes JP wonder if she really feels the same way he does.
Then it was Ben's turn to meet her family and that went completely different...in a very good way! I think he won them over the moment he did that dog voice...that was just too funny! I definitely see a different side come out in Ashley when she is around Ben but not knowing what she was like before all this I can't really make a judgment there. Ben tells her sister that he is 100% in love with Ashley and is completely ready to propose. Her sister reacts really well to Ben and says that she feels like Ashley is herself around Ben and that makes her really happy. Ben is completely accepted by her family and has not let his confidence in his relationship fade what-so-ever. At the very end Ashley says that she feels like she has everything with Ben but can't forget about how she feels about JP...is this foreshadowing? Keep reading to find out!
We next join Ben once again on his final date with Ashley and they are off to the healing mud baths....this is now on my to-do list (with Josh Groban....not Ben, the actual Josh Groban). Ashley is really loving the opportunity to rub mud all over Ben and probably would have kept doing it all day if they had let her...I mean she even said she wished she could go lower...hello! Right before Ben told Ashley that he loved her he was so nervous, it was absolutely adorable! He wasn't at all nervous when he asked for her hand in marriage but so scared to tell her he loves her, probably because there is a much bigger chance of rejection by telling Ashley he loves her. Ashley can feel that love with him and feels completely free when they are together...but is that enough?
JP's final date with Ashley started out on a much more serious note. After that horrid meeting with her sister, Ashley felt like she really had to ask some tough questions and there wasn't any more time to side step. JP gave her the exact answers she was looking for though and he ended it by telling her that he is madly in love with her. Ashley says that he proved himself to her today but I still don't really know what he had to prove in the first place. JP ends the night by giving her a photo album with a hand-written note that is supposed to be "the first chapter in their love story". It was so sweet and adorable and Ashley is completely infatuated with him.
This is when the big moment finally arrived...the moment where we learn for sure where Ashley's heart lies and which of these men is going to become her fiance. I had a good idea of who Ashley was going to pick, it just wasn't who I wanted her to pick so I was hoping I was wrong...I wasn't. Ben exited his sea plane first and we all know what that meant...that he was about to get his heart broken. He walks up but doesn't seem to see the look on her face that reads "I care so much about you but I'm about to break your heart into a million pieces". He got down on one knee and gave a beautiful speech and was met with complete silence. It is at this moment where his emotions turned from happy and excited to shocked and crushed. You could see the pain in his eyes and hear the anger in his voice. I think this caught Ashley a little off guard because Ben has never shown this side of him before, he was completely justified however. He just wanted to get out of there but Ashley held him back trying to make the rejection a little easier, which in turn only made it worse. I think it's safe to say that each of our hearts broke while watching this.
We then made a quick transition from the heart wrenching breakup to the fairytale ending Ashley has been searching for. As soon as Ashley saw JP she just lit up and you could see just how happy she truly was. He told her he was taking the ultimate leap of faith and in return she told him that she was in love with him and that he's the only one she ever wants to be with. He proposed with an absolutely GORGEOUS ring and she obviously said yes. It was truly the fairy tale ending she had been waiting for and the reason she went through this whole process.
The After The Rose was a much lighter gathering then the last ATR we had with Emily and Brad. We started off with Ben and you could tell that he was still hurting a little bit. He says that he still thinks about Ashley but that he has no regrets about the experience because he came out of it a much more complete person and he owes that to Ashley. He feels like he left with a little bit of dignity and that he still believes there's a chance for him to feel that way again and find love (the next Bachelor anyone?). I see Ashley and Ben being friends down the road once his heart completely heals.
Finally, after a very long wait the happy couple was reunited for the first time in public. It was overwhelmingly clear and obvious just how in love they are with each other. They both struggled for the words to express just how much they loved each other and that's always a true sign of love. Ashley's sister was there and she apologized to JP and admitted that she was completely wrong and it is obvious that he is the one for her. They revealed future plans of Ashley moving to NYC and getting a place together. There are no immediate plans of a wedding, they are just going to enjoy being able to take their relationship public. They were given the gift of a return trip to Fiji which I'm sure they will enjoy soon.
As heart broken as I am for Ben, I am very happy for Ashley and JP and wish them a long and happy life together. I hope you will all continue to read my blogs throughout Bachelor Pad and thank you for taking this reality tv journey with me!
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Monday, August 1, 2011
Monday, July 25, 2011
Bachelorette Ep.9
We jet off to Fiji this week for overnight dates and a visit from a surprise guest. This week was very much a deciding week for not only Ashley but for these guys. Off to Fiji we go!
I might as well just get the matter of the surprise guest out of the way first because clearly it is a main talking point regarding this week's episode. The guy who returned was none other then Ryan...he just won't go away will he? Now I know that many of you like Ryan and it's not that I dislike him, I just don't really trust him. There is something not quite right about him and I just can't seem to put my finger on it...it's just a feeling. Anyways, he came back because he felt like their one-on-one date wasn't a "conducive environment for romance". He felt like there were a lot of things that were left unsaid and that they needed more time to develop the "special connection" that they had from the start. He came back to ask Ashley for more time to see if she feels what he feels. Ultimately Ashley reaffirmed to Ryan that she knows she made the right decision by letting him go the first time and it just isn't there with him.
Ben was first up for a date this week and I am absolutely smitten with him! I mean honestly, can he be any more adorable? Their date was very flirtatious and full of lots of laughter...Ashley even compared their date to how newlyweds act on their honeymoon. Ashley says more then once that she can really see herself spending the rest of her life with him and I'm pretty sure she isn't the only one! Ben is completely in love with Ashley and even if he hadn't said it to the camera it was completely written all over his face. He might not have told Ashley directly but I think she could tell that he had very deep and serious feelings for her and you could tell that those feelings were returned on her part. He accepted the fantasy suite card and the rest of their night was as they say, history.
Constantine was up next and he was like a kid in a candy store when he saw that helicopter. He seemed more excited about the helicopter then he was to see Ashley, never a good sign. He is definitely more closed off then either Ben or JP and I constantly wonder whether he is capable of taking the big leap that is required when you fall in love with someone. I don't think he would be ready at the end of this to say he loves Ashley and accept all that comes with that. He isn't in love with Ashley at this point and I find myself wondering what he does feel for her, does he feel anything at all? This all leads to Constantine saying that this is the end of the road for him and choosing to leave. I respect him for doing what he knew was right and not forcing anything or pretending there was something when there wasn't.
Last but certainly not least we have Ashley's date with JP. There is just this unspeakable connection and chemistry between them that is undeniable. Ashley says that JP has been her rock throughout this whole experience and that is a very important quality to have in a relationship, to know that you can go to that person and that they will be there to support you no matter what. When JP looks at Ashley he sees the woman that he wants to spend the rest of his life with and even though he says he's falling in love with her, I think it's safe to say that he's already fallen. I feel like Ashley spent part of the night reassuring both JP and herself of what was going on and what they needed to focus on....this gave me a bit of a pause because reassurance shouldn't be necessary. JP was offered the fantasy suite card and gladly accepted the offer to spend some real alone time with "the woman he loves".
Even though there are only two guys left Ashley felt like it was important to still have a rose ceremony. She realizes that this is a two-way street and only wants them to accept the rose if they both see themselves on the path to potentially getting engaged in a week. It is of no surprise that they both accepted the rose.
Make sure you tune in on SUNDAY for the Men Tell All and then again on MONDAY for the finale! Who is Ashley going to choose?
I might as well just get the matter of the surprise guest out of the way first because clearly it is a main talking point regarding this week's episode. The guy who returned was none other then Ryan...he just won't go away will he? Now I know that many of you like Ryan and it's not that I dislike him, I just don't really trust him. There is something not quite right about him and I just can't seem to put my finger on it...it's just a feeling. Anyways, he came back because he felt like their one-on-one date wasn't a "conducive environment for romance". He felt like there were a lot of things that were left unsaid and that they needed more time to develop the "special connection" that they had from the start. He came back to ask Ashley for more time to see if she feels what he feels. Ultimately Ashley reaffirmed to Ryan that she knows she made the right decision by letting him go the first time and it just isn't there with him.
Ben was first up for a date this week and I am absolutely smitten with him! I mean honestly, can he be any more adorable? Their date was very flirtatious and full of lots of laughter...Ashley even compared their date to how newlyweds act on their honeymoon. Ashley says more then once that she can really see herself spending the rest of her life with him and I'm pretty sure she isn't the only one! Ben is completely in love with Ashley and even if he hadn't said it to the camera it was completely written all over his face. He might not have told Ashley directly but I think she could tell that he had very deep and serious feelings for her and you could tell that those feelings were returned on her part. He accepted the fantasy suite card and the rest of their night was as they say, history.
Constantine was up next and he was like a kid in a candy store when he saw that helicopter. He seemed more excited about the helicopter then he was to see Ashley, never a good sign. He is definitely more closed off then either Ben or JP and I constantly wonder whether he is capable of taking the big leap that is required when you fall in love with someone. I don't think he would be ready at the end of this to say he loves Ashley and accept all that comes with that. He isn't in love with Ashley at this point and I find myself wondering what he does feel for her, does he feel anything at all? This all leads to Constantine saying that this is the end of the road for him and choosing to leave. I respect him for doing what he knew was right and not forcing anything or pretending there was something when there wasn't.
Last but certainly not least we have Ashley's date with JP. There is just this unspeakable connection and chemistry between them that is undeniable. Ashley says that JP has been her rock throughout this whole experience and that is a very important quality to have in a relationship, to know that you can go to that person and that they will be there to support you no matter what. When JP looks at Ashley he sees the woman that he wants to spend the rest of his life with and even though he says he's falling in love with her, I think it's safe to say that he's already fallen. I feel like Ashley spent part of the night reassuring both JP and herself of what was going on and what they needed to focus on....this gave me a bit of a pause because reassurance shouldn't be necessary. JP was offered the fantasy suite card and gladly accepted the offer to spend some real alone time with "the woman he loves".
Even though there are only two guys left Ashley felt like it was important to still have a rose ceremony. She realizes that this is a two-way street and only wants them to accept the rose if they both see themselves on the path to potentially getting engaged in a week. It is of no surprise that they both accepted the rose.
Make sure you tune in on SUNDAY for the Men Tell All and then again on MONDAY for the finale! Who is Ashley going to choose?
Monday, July 18, 2011
Bachelorette Ep.8
It's hometown date week and this is when things really get serious. This week is often the make it or break it time where you can either see yourself fitting in with the family and into the other person's world or not. This was probably my favorite episode of this season and there is a lot to talk about so we might as well just get down to it.
Ashley first went to Constantine's hometown and I just have to say that I absolutely LOVE his family! What an amazing group of people! The date started off with Constantine taking Ashley to his family's restaurant where they made pizza and salad for lunch. He seemed so much more playful and confident then he has thus far and I am loving that side of him! The line where he said "Is it getting a little cheesy in here?" while holding up the pizza cheese was epic! Then to get to see him interact with his family and see how truly close-knit they are was great. Ashley said that she feels like she really fits in with his family and can see herself having a life with him, and I might be starting to see it too. Before tonight I really didn't see the connection between Constantine and Ashley but I'm finally starting to see it and I'm liking what I see.
Next was Ames' hometown and I have mixed emotions about what I saw. His sister sees that Ames is "smitten" with Ashley and that Ashley feels something for him too but isn't sure it's the right thing. She asked Ashley a lot of questions and to me it seemed like Ashley was very indirect in her answers and always ended up going back to how she likes what she sees but needs to know more about him. Ashley repeatedly says that she is being reassured of Ames by his family but I feel like she shouldn't have to be reassured of these things, she should just know and trust in them by this point. Ashley isn't feeling the passion and romance aspects with Ames and I think that came across to his sister because she then went on to tell Ames that he needs to step it up and show Ashley his romantic side, which he then does. He takes Ashley on a picnic under a huge, beautiful magnolia tree and then on a carriage ride along the river which looked spectacular. Ames definitely made a huge effort but I just didn't see it there between them.
Ben was up next and this was definitely the most heart wrenching of the dates. They first go on this picnic to his winery which is like my dream date so I was ridiculously jealous of them at that moment. Ben and Ashley have a really good talk before heading to his house and Ben shares that he feels confident in bringing Ashley home which is not usually the case. Ashley then asked about what his dad would have thought if he had been able to meet her and Ben felt sure that he would have really liked her and you could immediately see how important that is to him. Ashley says that she is most nervous about meeting Ben's family which shows me that she really cares about him and how he's feeling. Ben shares with his family that he feels like it's effortless with Ashley and that he can see himself proposing to her at the end of this. Then he sat down with his mom which made me completely lose it. When he was talking about how he was right after his dad died and that he should have been a better son my heart completely broke. It was in that moment that I really fell for Ben...seeing him like this made me realize that he is the kind of man that I want to be with and I think he's the kind of man Ashley wants to be with too. Ashley said that she can see herself spending the rest of her life with him and I can see it too.
Last but not least was JP and I always look forward to seeing JP! He took her roller skating which was absolutely adorable and they were so cute together. It gave a little glimpse of what a regular date would be like for them and they looked like they belonged together. She says that she feels lucky to be with him which is something you really only say when you're really falling for someone. JP really started to lay all of his cards out on the table by telling her that he's 100% certain of his relationship with Ashley and that he is completely miserable when he's not with her. This was a huge step for him because he's really starting to make his feelings known and putting his faith in his relationship. He's clearly falling in love with Ashley and she is clearly falling in love with him. He tells his family that he's willing to put himself out there because he thinks what he has with Ashley is the real thing and that he doesn't feel like he's going to get his heartbroken at the end of this. He is very open to the idea of proposing to Ashley at the end of this if it feels right. Ashley tells his mom that she is completely "smitten" with JP and knows that she has something very special with him. There is no way I can close this hometown date without mentioning that picture JP's mom brought out at the end....oh the hair! He was adorable then and he is even more adorable now.
Ashley's talk with Chris before the rose ceremony allowed her to shine a light on how she felt about each date. Ashley felt Constantine's hometown date was the best one, Ames would be the best husband, Ben planned the perfect date, and JP's mom was the sweetest and their date went exactly how she wanted it to. It should have been no surprise that Ames was the one who did not receive a rose; the passion and romance just wasn't there between them and it was just too forced. You could tell that Ames was completely shocked but was nothing but a complete gentleman when saying goodbye to Ashley. He then revealed when he was in the car that he had fallen in love with Ashley and felt numb by her rejection. I felt so bad for him even though I knew she had made the right decision.
Next week they are off to Fiji and someone returns...any guesses as to who it is? (HINT-it isn't Bentley!)
Ashley first went to Constantine's hometown and I just have to say that I absolutely LOVE his family! What an amazing group of people! The date started off with Constantine taking Ashley to his family's restaurant where they made pizza and salad for lunch. He seemed so much more playful and confident then he has thus far and I am loving that side of him! The line where he said "Is it getting a little cheesy in here?" while holding up the pizza cheese was epic! Then to get to see him interact with his family and see how truly close-knit they are was great. Ashley said that she feels like she really fits in with his family and can see herself having a life with him, and I might be starting to see it too. Before tonight I really didn't see the connection between Constantine and Ashley but I'm finally starting to see it and I'm liking what I see.
Next was Ames' hometown and I have mixed emotions about what I saw. His sister sees that Ames is "smitten" with Ashley and that Ashley feels something for him too but isn't sure it's the right thing. She asked Ashley a lot of questions and to me it seemed like Ashley was very indirect in her answers and always ended up going back to how she likes what she sees but needs to know more about him. Ashley repeatedly says that she is being reassured of Ames by his family but I feel like she shouldn't have to be reassured of these things, she should just know and trust in them by this point. Ashley isn't feeling the passion and romance aspects with Ames and I think that came across to his sister because she then went on to tell Ames that he needs to step it up and show Ashley his romantic side, which he then does. He takes Ashley on a picnic under a huge, beautiful magnolia tree and then on a carriage ride along the river which looked spectacular. Ames definitely made a huge effort but I just didn't see it there between them.
Ben was up next and this was definitely the most heart wrenching of the dates. They first go on this picnic to his winery which is like my dream date so I was ridiculously jealous of them at that moment. Ben and Ashley have a really good talk before heading to his house and Ben shares that he feels confident in bringing Ashley home which is not usually the case. Ashley then asked about what his dad would have thought if he had been able to meet her and Ben felt sure that he would have really liked her and you could immediately see how important that is to him. Ashley says that she is most nervous about meeting Ben's family which shows me that she really cares about him and how he's feeling. Ben shares with his family that he feels like it's effortless with Ashley and that he can see himself proposing to her at the end of this. Then he sat down with his mom which made me completely lose it. When he was talking about how he was right after his dad died and that he should have been a better son my heart completely broke. It was in that moment that I really fell for Ben...seeing him like this made me realize that he is the kind of man that I want to be with and I think he's the kind of man Ashley wants to be with too. Ashley said that she can see herself spending the rest of her life with him and I can see it too.
Last but not least was JP and I always look forward to seeing JP! He took her roller skating which was absolutely adorable and they were so cute together. It gave a little glimpse of what a regular date would be like for them and they looked like they belonged together. She says that she feels lucky to be with him which is something you really only say when you're really falling for someone. JP really started to lay all of his cards out on the table by telling her that he's 100% certain of his relationship with Ashley and that he is completely miserable when he's not with her. This was a huge step for him because he's really starting to make his feelings known and putting his faith in his relationship. He's clearly falling in love with Ashley and she is clearly falling in love with him. He tells his family that he's willing to put himself out there because he thinks what he has with Ashley is the real thing and that he doesn't feel like he's going to get his heartbroken at the end of this. He is very open to the idea of proposing to Ashley at the end of this if it feels right. Ashley tells his mom that she is completely "smitten" with JP and knows that she has something very special with him. There is no way I can close this hometown date without mentioning that picture JP's mom brought out at the end....oh the hair! He was adorable then and he is even more adorable now.
Ashley's talk with Chris before the rose ceremony allowed her to shine a light on how she felt about each date. Ashley felt Constantine's hometown date was the best one, Ames would be the best husband, Ben planned the perfect date, and JP's mom was the sweetest and their date went exactly how she wanted it to. It should have been no surprise that Ames was the one who did not receive a rose; the passion and romance just wasn't there between them and it was just too forced. You could tell that Ames was completely shocked but was nothing but a complete gentleman when saying goodbye to Ashley. He then revealed when he was in the car that he had fallen in love with Ashley and felt numb by her rejection. I felt so bad for him even though I knew she had made the right decision.
Next week they are off to Fiji and someone returns...any guesses as to who it is? (HINT-it isn't Bentley!)
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